writer’s group assignment: forgetting

something i dashed off yesterday before writers group, because, duh…i forgot about it:

Ahhhhhh…forgetting.  It’s a word with generally two meanings…either to be unable to remember something or to intentionally disregard or overlook.  One meaning involuntary, the other voluntary.  It’s pretty black and white:  we are unable or able.

For having such a succinct definition, forgetting itself is really a tricky thing.  On any given day i will to think really hard to remember what I had for breakfast.  Later that day a customer can walk into the Club and I automatically remember what they drink.  I can keep an entire table’s order on file in my brain, but cannot for the life of me remember most of my family’s birthdays.  I don’t know what all that implies about me, but I find it interesting.

I also find interesting the many ways in which we ‘forget.’  It’s a convenient way to excuse oneself for having missed an obligation one did not want to go to.  Or it can be used as an excuse for tardiness as in, ‘I was so involved with building my replica Empire State Building that I forgot all about the time!’  Or you can ‘forget’ a debt you owe, which can be a long, self-deluding process.  But you can also use forgetting as an excuse for not buying something at an in-home party because even though you really want that over-priced merchandise, well, you just clean forgot to grab your wallet before you left home.  Or you ‘forgot’ to fill the car with gas because you really just didn’t want to make one more stop on the way home.

Usually these ‘forgets’ aren’t earth-shattering.  But sometimes they have significant consequences.  You forgot to pick up your child from school  You forgot to pay a bill.  Your forgot to back up all your writing so years of work and research are gone.  Forgetting can be a real bitch.

And it can be pretty scary when we forget…is it just absentmindedness or Alzheimer’s?

I am a serial forgetter and I know that, but no matter how hard I try, I still tend to forget that…but I keep trying.

alas…

i have been racking my poor, martini-soaked brain to come up with something either witty or deep, but alas…i got nuthin’.  however, a few things i do know:

  • people have always thought things couldn’t get much crazier…
  • new shoes and spring time are two of my favorite feelings…
  • ‘lump’ will always be one of my favorite songs…
  • hubbkf has the patience of a saint for putting up with me…
  • i do love event planning and even though i bitch about it, seating people in the perfect groups is awesome…
  • if you’re lucky enough to be irish, you’re lucky enough…

getting in touch with my inner lenny pepperbottom…birdwatching!

yesterday was absolutely gorgeous here in western mn, so hubbkf and i took the intrepid luci and went for a walk here.  we took one of the dnr service roads where we knew there would be lots of geese…some are local and some are snows and blues.   there are also some canadians making a pitstop and are prolly on their way home to free healthcare, hockey and poutine which are three things i know fer sure about canada…

an eagle, not a goose...

first we saw an eagle…pretty sure it’s a baldy, but could be a golden…who knows?  he wouldn’t let us get close enough to find out…hey, i respect his distance!

i live under the watertower...

my house is a little to the left of the watertower…you can see some of the trees in our yard…how neat is that? 

nice formation...

we could hear their wings flapping as they passed over us…here’s a beaut:

yeah...that's a lot of goose...

kinda gave me the shivers when they all got up…

 this was the last bird we saw on our way out…we walked about 3 miles…luci got extremely warm and kept rolling around in the snow, which i wish we would have gotten a picture of cuz it was adorbs…

this is just flat-out badass...

so, yeah…this is where i live and i wouldn’t change that for anything…i actually got a little teary eyed what with the perfection of the day…warm sunshine, lots of nature, holding hands with hubbkf…what more could a girl ask for?

a response to my new friend carol…

i’ve very recently embarked on a long distance relationship…one between myself and ‘carol’ who is miles and miles away from reality…our correspondence thus far.  warning: she is a dittohead…

below, is my most recent epistle to st. carol:

yes, carol, the man who continually refers to women who refuse to live their lives barefoot, pregnant, in the kitchen and dependent on males as ‘feminazis’ just looooooooves women…you can feel the love just dripping off his dulcet tones…and the same man who demanded that fluke and all the women who use contraception tape their intimate moments and send him those tapes to watch is indeed displaying a decency that is obviously so advanced, someone like me and thousands of others cannot grasp it…

i don’t ‘hate’ anyone…i only used ‘snideness’ in my response to you as you were looking down your nose at fluke and the thousands of women using birth control with the misguided notion (placed there by rush, who clearly does not know how birth control, women’s bodies work or insurance works) that women who use contraception are rampant sex fiends. you also stated that fluke needed to get out in the real world and then she’d know what was what…that’s why i included her bio, so you could clearly see that she has been a part of the real world…and i would venture to guess that if one can be accepted into georgetown’s school of law, one would have to be intelligent, hard working and responsible…

i see a lot of the commentors are suggesting that fluke and her friends go to planned parenthood to get free birth control…i thought planned parenthood was bad and only performed abortions?

and let’s not forget about the ‘socialism’ aspect of planned parenthood, social security and medicare…if we’re all so afraid of it, wouldn’t it be best to get rid of it? i don’t see where every citizen of our great country doesn’t have the right to decent healthcare is ‘socialiist’ especially since s.s. and medicare are not perceived as such by those who use them…even our founding fathers dabbled a bit in that area…why is it wrong to wish to alleviate sickness and suffering? it seems to me that that is what we call human decency…

and in the end, fluke did not ask for taxpayers to cover her birth control costs…again, that was a misunderstanding and miscommunication on rush’s part…instead of vilifying women who are taking care of their health and forgetting that we are fully functioning human beings not just a bunch of vaginas and ovaries, we should be doing what we can to make sure that when and if a woman chooses to have children, they go into motherhood with the best possible health and getting the best possible health care…after all, a country as great as ours deserves to and depends on our littlest citizens getting the best start they can…

…and we have a winner!

since andrew breitbart has now assumed, as rush limbaugh says, room temperature, i guess that leaves rushbo himself as the most heinous person on the air…

i just read today about his latest attempt at ‘humor’ targeted at females (are we still referred to as ‘feminazis’?) so, i’m still trying to process the gross stupidity and rampant misogyny of the whole thing…rush, true to form obfuscates the real issues in his continual schticks of ‘ooohhh liberals are stupid, weak, misguided, socialist, fascist, heathenish, depraved wastes of skin’ and ‘women are stupid, vindictive, male-hating sluts’with his remarks about sandra fluke and other women who use contraceptives…

i love how he just de-humanizes all women with his, ‘oh ho! these wimmens are such huge sluts they have to pop the birth control pills like pez to keep from getting knocked up!’ i can only guess that he realizes that fluke is likely on birth control pills being as it’s one of the most easy and reliable methods to avoid pregnancy and that, as a pill user himself, he only knows that every time he takes a boner pill or an oxycontin, that his weiner goes up or that he floats away to whatever hellish fantasy world it is he escapes to every time he throws his ‘medication’ into his yammering yaw…

but apparently, the innerworkings of women and how birth control and insurance works are lost on him, as he seems convinced that he is paying directly for all these slutty sluts’ pills and rubbers, just as i am surely paying for his boner pills and pain killers…

how stupid is this man? and his dittohead fans? i used to have to listen to him back in my early radio days and at first found his parodies to be slightly amusing…but the idiocy and misogyny wore thin pretty quickly and i began to pray that a huge meteor would wipe the offices of the eib network off the face of the earth…he has always had the knack of purposely misunderhending facts and issues and instead twisting them to suit his depraved fancy, but really, how can somebody be this dumb and still have such a big following and even bigger bank account? and how the fuck has he found one, let alone multiple, women to marry him?!?!?

eck…typing that last sentence squicked me out in a way that i may not recover from…which brings me next to his, ‘but hey! if you slutty mcsluthotpants are going to be doing it, at least tape it so we can watch!’ just fits right in with his ‘women are only here to please men and keep their mouths shut about their feelings and rights’ mindset…so, is rush saying he wants to watch women get it on with men? which means he would also be seeing men doing it…which sounds slightly ghey…and teh ghey appall rush…or is he hoping that the sluts are getting it on with each other? which…is also…ghey? but if it’s bitchez involved it’s not ghey? in any case, watching others get it on is probably rush’s only mode of sexual gratification…well, except for the rent boys…

and, i see now that newt is applauding rush’s apology as being the right thing to do…really? newt gingrich? the same newt gingrich who cheated on his dying wife…yeah, that’s a classy endorsement right there…