something i dashed off yesterday before writers group, because, duh…i forgot about it:
Ahhhhhh…forgetting. It’s a word with generally two meanings…either to be unable to remember something or to intentionally disregard or overlook. One meaning involuntary, the other voluntary. It’s pretty black and white: we are unable or able.
For having such a succinct definition, forgetting itself is really a tricky thing. On any given day i will to think really hard to remember what I had for breakfast. Later that day a customer can walk into the Club and I automatically remember what they drink. I can keep an entire table’s order on file in my brain, but cannot for the life of me remember most of my family’s birthdays. I don’t know what all that implies about me, but I find it interesting.
I also find interesting the many ways in which we ‘forget.’ It’s a convenient way to excuse oneself for having missed an obligation one did not want to go to. Or it can be used as an excuse for tardiness as in, ‘I was so involved with building my replica Empire State Building that I forgot all about the time!’ Or you can ‘forget’ a debt you owe, which can be a long, self-deluding process. But you can also use forgetting as an excuse for not buying something at an in-home party because even though you really want that over-priced merchandise, well, you just clean forgot to grab your wallet before you left home. Or you ‘forgot’ to fill the car with gas because you really just didn’t want to make one more stop on the way home.
Usually these ‘forgets’ aren’t earth-shattering. But sometimes they have significant consequences. You forgot to pick up your child from school You forgot to pay a bill. Your forgot to back up all your writing so years of work and research are gone. Forgetting can be a real bitch.
And it can be pretty scary when we forget…is it just absentmindedness or Alzheimer’s?
I am a serial forgetter and I know that, but no matter how hard I try, I still tend to forget that…but I keep trying.